The Narcissist’s Prayer by an unknown author, perfectly describes their progression. You can use this to spot a narcissist and avoid them.
That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did… You deserved it.
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Don’t Work With People Who Are Perpetually Aggrieved
It’s difficult to work with someone who always seems to be aggrieved. It’s a sign they will blame others rather than take responsibility themselves. It’s also a sign that they won’t be interested in improving their performance or making adjustments to collaborate better with you or the team.
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It’s Easier to Blame Others for Lack of Success
Given the choice between taking responsibility for lack of success in a given arena and blaming others for keeping you down, many will choose to blame others. There is comfort in a narrative that it’s not you, but some external conspiracy to keep you from what you were entitled to.