People tend to be more judgmental and harsher on themselves than on others. Applying compassion that you would have for a close friend, but to yourself is a powerful coping and support mechanism.
Steps to self compassion:
- Acknowledging this is a moment of suffering, being mindful and not resisting what you are feeling.
- I am not alone, it’s natural to feel this way.
- What do I need right now? What would I say to a friend in this situation?
See also:
- Kristin Neff’s overview of self-compassion, comparison with self-esteem, and demonstrations
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